Opposites attract

Why opposites attract in relationships

Have you wondered why opposites attract in a relationship? And not only in an intimate relationship! A parent-child dynamics is also often representing a polarity. Why does it happen and what does it serve? Keep reading to find out.


Finding peace in the midst of a push-pull struggle

In an intimate relationship, although partners try to pick each other out based on common values (at least on the surface), there is usually at least one area where the two a diametrically opposite. Thus, one can be laid back whereas the other one extremely motivated and always on the go; One can be good with money whereas the other one always broke; One could be an introvert, whereas the other one an extrovert; One of the people in the couple may be trying to avoid conflict whereas the other may be looking for conflicts and ways to assert themselves; One person in the couple could be the reason whereas the other one the emotions. And the list goes on and on. So why is that and what does it serve?

Usually, the area where we “clash” with a partner (or with a parent or a child) is the area where we need to grow (together with our partner, parent and child). Thus, if my partner is too slow (laid back, easy-going, indecisive, not particularly driven or motivated) whereas I am constantly making plans, decisions and progress, and my mind is always going 100 miles per hour looking for the next thing to achieve, and if we each get triggered by our opposite ways, destiny has brought us to together so we can learn from each other. It’s my partner’s job to learn how to be more awake, speed up a little and get moving. And it’s my job to learn how to slow down, relax and let go just a little. This way we can bring the opposition into balance and come to neutral (which is what nature always wants and strives for).

So if you want to grow with your partner, parent or child, sit down and work out in what way you “clash” and how that triggers each of you. Once identified, that’s the area each of you needs to master by letting go of the attachment to one of the extremes and moving a little closer to the other side of the spectrum, to the other person’s ways. That’s the purpose of the partnership and that’s the path of growth and happiness for each partner. Remember: there is always a better way and that’s usually not your way!

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